I have been sharing about self awareness and the importance of knowing ourselves, we should be our own best friend, I believe.  Not saying that you can't have a bestie but who should know you better than you know yourself besides God our Creator and you?  Self awareness is very rewarding especially if we are teachable.

We have all been through trauma-deeply distressing disturbing experiences but we can take back out power and learn to live happier healthier lives.  You have choices regardless of how your life is going right now.  Even if you are pretty happy, there are some mindsets that may still need to be addressed. 

Do you have a healthy relationship with yourself and others? We can start there.  Do you struggle with fear, guilt, shame, insecurity, jealousy, envy, depression?  How about anxiety?  When that negative energy comes up do you know what to do with it?  Do you know how to nurture yourself?  Do you see yourself as important enough to take time for you?  Do you have a spiritual life?

I want to share this article with you from

7 Tips for Becoming Self Aware

It’s the middle of rush hour traffic on a Friday evening, and as I sit at a red light in the pouring rain, I notice a frantic mother walking hastily.

Her left hand is gripping her young daughter’s hand and she is holding an umbrella in the other hand, which is somehow also pushing a baby stroller; all the while she is in deep conversation on her mobile phone. In a blink of an eye, I can see she is frustrated and chaotic, not to mention highly unaware of what is going on around her.It is in this moment that as I watch her, I can’t help but relate to her. How many times have I been engaged in multiple things and not paying attention to what was going on around me? I have to admit, quite a few, until recently.

How self-aware are you? And just how huge are the benefits of being self-aware?


Understanding yourself


Having self-awareness means understanding yourself more than anyone else on this planet. Being self-aware is the idea of being able to ask yourself why you are feeling overwhelmed, chaotic, frazzled, harried, angry, sad, depressed — whatever the emotion might be. It’s being aware enough to ask yourself why you are upset and getting yourself in a position to think about, “Why am I doing what I am doing right now?"

This type of deep self-awareness comes from being able to step back and look at your emotions and understand what is happening. You must be able to step back and be able to observe; then you can start to see why you are doing the things that you are doing, why you got yourself in that sticky situation, or why you have that certain problem you have.

When you begin down the path to self-awareness, it can be scary, because you might start to realize you've been a jerk for a long time or that you haven't been the parent, friend or supervisor that you thought you had been. But understand this: the best thing about life is you can make a change today. You can start to become a better parent, partner, boss and a better friend today. You can improve all those relationships once you are self-aware enough to realize there was an issue or that you are behaving a certain way.


Benefits of being self-aware

Being self-aware is really an awesome place to be, and there are multiple benefits of becoming self-aware. Some of the benefits are:

You start to understand your subconscious and why you think the way you think You become a much nicer person when you become self-aware You are more honest with yourself and others; the more honest you are the more integrity you have You don't suffer from regrets You know what you want / when you don't know what you want you are a frustrated person It's easier to make decisions You have more inner peace You increase your intuition You learn who you truly are

When you sit back and think about it, these nine benefits are huge things that are life- changing when you become more self-aware.


How to become self-aware

What are some things you can do to become self-aware? Below are seven tips to help you become more self-aware.


1. Understand conditioning

Over the years, we all have become conditioned by our religion, our education, our parents, our family, our society, and our environment. All of those things are consistently putting messages into our minds; we then react based on the ideas and thoughts we have in our mind.

Understand that the things that have been put into our heads are what make us think and act a certain way. Becoming self-aware of the conditioning we are receiving is one of the most critical things we can do and we've got to start to reverse that conditioning.

2. Learn to meditate

You must learn to slow down your thoughts and your mind. Find a meditation that is easy and that works for you. Start getting in the practice of quieting your mind each day for 15 minutes.

3. Keep an open mind

Don't be closed-minded. Learn to open up your mind to new thoughts, new ideas and new ways of doing things. Learn from as many people as you can and as many different things as you can. Exploring this and opening your mind will help you become self-aware.

4. Set boundaries

Many people do not know how to set boundaries and they get themselves in more and more trouble. This is an oversight that successful people make that keeps them from achieving their goals. Most people do not have enough boundaries in their lives to keep themselves focused on the task at hand.

5. Stay focused

It's crucial that you stay focused on what you are going after. This is why I wrote the Sacred 6 process. This is about getting a game plan together, becoming self-aware of why you are not achieving or living the life you are looking to live, finding what is getting in your way, and then making the changes you need to make.

6. Embrace your intuition

One of the most important things we can do is understand our intuition at a deep level. You have to trust your intuition. Stop second-guessing yourself, and start building your faith in your intuition again.

7. Practice self-discipline

Quit viewing discipline as a bad thing; self-discipline is an amazing thing. Self-discipline will always serve to your betterment, so work to become more self-disciplined.

Start becoming more self-aware today. You will grow into a much better partner, manager, parent and friend. You will noticeably see an improvement in the success of your life (and business). By applying the simple tips above your life will change as you learn that having self-awareness will bring much more inner peace and ultimate happiness to your personal (and business) life.


If you are sick and tired of being sick and tired like I was in 1992, then you will allow yourself to become teachable and begin your healing process.  You are a awesome person with infinite potential born for a specific purpose.  Of course because of past trauma you may not FEEL that way but you can take back the power from trauma beginning now.  Be patient with yourself, recovery is a life long process.  Asking God to heal the heart and then becoming willing to challenge old belief systems and behaviors take time.  But God will help you.  


The Healthy Mind Strategist 

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